Masturbation is a form of inordinate sex.  Sex was designed to be between a husband and his wife.  It must be within the confines of marriage, and it must be between the husband and his wife.  Anything outside of that is illicit sex.  Masturbation is you having sex with yourself.  It is outside of Biblical parameters.  Secondly, anyone who masturbates does not masturbate to thin air.  He or she has a mental image that they are masturbating to.  It could be a picture they have seen, pornographic videos, erotic literature, sex they have had in the past with someone etc…

 

Consider this verse: “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Matthew 5:28.  Looking at a woman lustfully meant looking at her with sexual thoughts.  Masturbation, happens because of sexual thoughts and a vivid imagination.  Whatever you are masturbating to, you are guilty of doing it.  You and the person who is doing it physically are going to get the same reward, or should I say punishment?  So it is clearly sin and will lead you to hell.

 

Now, most people who masturbate train their brains to fire at their own touch.  With time, having sex with someone else does not bring as much pleasure.  In fact, a person can end up having sex and then masturbating to reach orgasm because they have messed up how their brain responds to sexual stimulation.  When such a person gets married, their spouse is not able to give them the same level of pleasure that they can give themselves.  Sexually, the marriage begins to suffer.

 

This is how you hear stories of a man who sleeps with his wife and then goes to the bathroom to masturbate because he can’t ejaculate until he does.  Or a woman who waits for her husband to sleep and then masturbates because she just can’t have an orgasm any other way.  If you introduce sexual toys to the whole masturbation scenario it gets even worse, because no man is designed to do what those machines do.  A woman who uses vibrators, dildos, and other such things will struggle when she is having sex with her husband, because he cannot hit all her spots the way these machines do.  The marriage begins to suffer terribly.

 

So if you are a masturbator, you need to stop, and you need to ask God to restore your body and mind to default settings so that he can undo the effects of years of masturbation.  You need to enjoy sex with your own spouse when you get married.